Its late but I had to write and inform you of some incredible statistics out today. Its big news in the wake of ‘D’ Day - (Divorce Day) which takes place on the first Monday in January. This is the official day that the greatest number of people apply for Divorce. It seems that waiting till after Christmas is preferable to dropping the bombshell pre turkey and pud. However what I learned to day adds insult to injury and it made such big news that I was invited on to BBC 24 News to give my ‘expert’ comments. So here’s the report I read and I’d be interested to hear your comments. (I dont know who wrote it so I cannot attribute a name to it, but whoever you are, it makes fascinating reading).

“They may have promised to have and to hold for richer and for poorer.
But wives are most interested in the richer part, it was claimed yesterday.
In a study of married men and women, the majority of wives - 59 per cent - said they would divorce immediately if their future economic security was assured.
The survey also found than half of husbands thought their marriage was “loveless”.
And among both sexes, more than one in ten wished they had wed someone else.
Responding to the astonishing results, relationship experts warned couples to avoid getting stuck in a rut - or risk the trauma of divorce.

The survey of 2,000 adults by a firm of solicitors revealed that 12 per cent would stay in an unhappy relationship just for an easy life.

Almost 30 per cent said they were staying in a doomed marriage to save themselves going through a massive upheaval.
Thirty-seven per cent said they were staying for the sake of the children.
Some said they were worried about what they would lose if they left their partner, with 42 per cent fearing they would have to give up their home if they split.

Almost a third of those polled were concerned they would be left with absolutely nothing if they walked out on their marriage.

And 30 per cent of men said they were scared that they would have to leave without their children.
Nearly half of those questioned, both men and women, would stay with their partner for the sake of the family unit.
The survey was commissioned by solicitors Seddons after a rush of divorce applications in the first week of the new year.

Overall, 12 per cent said they were in a loveless relationship and more than a third (35 per cent) believed their marriage would turn stale in the near future.

A shocking 56 per cent admitted they were not completely happy in their relationship - and more than half said they had considered splitting from their partners.

Half of those surveyed would consider going to see a counsellor in an attempt to get their relationship back on track before heading for the divorce courts. However, one in five thought it would not be worth the hassle.
A quarter said the thought of high legal fees prevented them from having a divorce and six in ten hadn’t heard of mediation for divorce settlements.

Deborah Jeff of Seddons said: “Sixty per cent were not aware of how mediation can be used to improve communication between parties, minimise the impact of divorce and keep legal fees to a minimum.” Report Ends

Well what do you think? It seems to me that if you are going to stay in your marriage or long term relationship you would benefit hugely and dramatically from getting the right skills and strategies to do this. So many relationships could move from dislike to like and like to affection and from affection to love if couples only knew how. Fortunately for you, I can provide all the tools you need to repair your relationship if you want to give your relationship another chance before becoming just another statistic for the files.

Lets speak soon.

This entry was posted on Saturday, January 19th, 2008 at 12:21 am and is filed under General.