I’m Francine Kaye. 13 years ago I began the same journey you have embarked on. The shock of realising that my marriage was over was physically numbing and mentally blurring. I can even remember a time when I actually could not move off my chair. I was in the panic zone engulfed with fear and quite unable to create coherent thoughts.

After the initial shock I found myself in a period of resistance to the whole idea of breaking up. Perhaps my marriage of l5 years could be mended. If only this or that could be different perhaps it would work? One of the biggest challenges most people face is to decide whether to stay and try to make it work or whether to leave and make a clean break. Faced with the same challenges all those years ago, I eventually decided that there was no future for my relationship.

The problem was that I had two very small children, a huge mortgage and I had not worked for over 10 years. I had limited skills, even less self confidence and my family lived hundreds of miles away. All our joint friends were married and life as I knew it was now over.

I just wished I had someone I could turn to help me. I basically scanned my peer group and just couldn’t find the support I needed. I wanted someone to help me get my identity back. Someone to show me how cope with the pain that came over me in waves. I wanted someone to help me continue to be a great parent even when I was worried about so many other things. I need someone to give me the strategies and skills to help me re-write my future and regain my stability financially and socially.

I looked around and there was no one. Relate offered an ear but could not give me the skills I needed. Counsellors offered compassion but no action steps to follow. Friends offered a shoulder and took my side vehemently. But no one could give me back me in a way that would move me forward so I could emerge from all this buoyant not bitter and ready to face my new life.

I had to be that person for myself and it took a long time. I read every self- help book I could get my hands on. Books like “Tough Times Never Last but Tough People Do”, Even Eagles Need a Push, Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway, and Born to Succeed. I trained as a Residential Social Worker and worked with with abused and neglected kids. (As if I didn’t have enough challenges). At the same time I took a four year Counselling Diploma and read Carl Rogers and Jung and Gestalt. I went on as many personal development courses as I could afford. I travelled to San Diego in the United States to become a Parent Effectiveness Trainer so I could be the best parent to my kids. I became a Time Management Trainer for DayTimers so I could learn how to manage my time and I learned marketing skills to help me create a business. I became a Co-Active Coach with the Coaches Training Institute and studied cognitive behavioural skills so I could understand why we behave the way we do. I delved deeply into relationship theory and practice and became a Family Mediator. I did everything I could to find out about how people relate to each other and themselves and then I set about putting everything I had learned into a format that would inspire and give hope to virtually anyone experiencing relationship challenges.

I know what its like to be where you are now. I also know that it’s absolutely 100% possible to heal your heart, hold on to your identity and learn to love again.

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